What Was Bryce Laspisa Desperate To Tell His Parents On The Day He Went Missing?

On August 30, 2013, Bryce Laspisa, a young and seemingly carefree 19-year-old, went missing near Castiac Lake in California. Bryce drove away from Sierra College, where he had just began his sophomore year, with the apparent intention to go back to his parents’ home in Laguna Niguel. Without any hard evidence, Bryce’s disappearance is riddled with mysteries and painfully unanswered questions. Below we examine the biggest questions raised in Investigation Discovery’s episode of “Disappeared” about the case.

What was causing Bryce’s allegedly odd behavior in the weeks before he went missing? 

After spending the summer with his parents, Bryce appeared to be eager to start his second year at Sierra College. Despite his bright future, Bryce’s friends reported that he was drinking heavily and using prescription drugs during his first two weeks back on campus.

His girlfriend also confirmed that he abruptly ended their relationship and was under the influence the night he left campus. Equally troubling, Bryce reportedly gave away possessions, including diamond earrings from his mother, before hitting the road.

A family photo of Bryce via Facebook

A family photo of Bryce via Facebook

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What was Bryce intending to talk to his parents about on the night he went missing?

It should have only taken Bryce a few hours to drive from school to his parents’ house, but he was on the road for over 20 hours. During that chaotic timeframe, Bryce had his car serviced, talked to his parents multiple times and was even questioned by police. Despite the bizarre timeline of events, everyone that spoke with Bryce, in-person and on the phone, insists that he was lucid.

Police were surprised that Bryce was reluctant to call his parents on the phone and Bryce told his mother not to come pick him up. He told his parents he had something important to talk to them about, but refused to give more details. What did Bryce need to talk his parents about and why was he hesitant to get home? Those questions remains central to the investigation for the police and the private investigator working with Bryce’s parents.

Given his recent substance abuse and reported erratic behavior, many question if Bryce had a psychotic break. Is Bryce living off the grid and not in the right state of mind to contact his family?

Where was Bryce driving and why did he leave his wallet behind?

A photo of Bryce, including the tattoo on his shoulder via Facebook

A photo of Bryce, including the tattoo on his shoulder via Facebook

Bryce’s car was found overturned, with his laptop and wallet inside. The back window of the car was removed and Bryce’s blood was on the seats. Police question if Bryce intentionally drove off the round, heading down the steep and rocky terrain towards the nearby Castiac Lake.

Following the troubling accident, investigators never located Bryce’s body and dogs tracked his scent to a nearby gas station. Could Bryce have sustained a head injury and wandered off? Regardless of Bryce’s mental state, police working the investigation do not believe that he met his demise at Castiac Lake.

If you have any information about the case, call 949-292-4400. The Los Angeles County Sheriff’s Department can be reached at 323-890-5500. You can also send photos to his family at findbrycelaspisa@gmail.com and get updates on Facebook.

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  • Perhaps he had something to tell his parents that he was worried they wouldn’t accept. For example, telling them he was gay.

    Psychotic break is also worth considering. It can happen with large doses of unprescribed drugs especially when mixed with alcohol.

    • Lahlah Po

      I was wondering exactly the same thing. I do wonder though, if they had such an open relationship, why he wouldnt simply tell them. Im curious to know what their personal feelings on homosexuality are. If they felt it was immoral then I think what happened to Bryce is very obvious. He walked away. But if they spent his life believing there’s nothing wrong with it, Bryce wouldve known that and just told them, which would make his disappearance a little more puzzling. It would help to know their feelings on that issue. I think it would provide valuable insight into the investigation either way.
      But without knowing their feelings about it, Im inclined to think he didnt think he could tell them he was gay and believed they would rather think he’s dead than gay. Or that he would rather walk away than face them. If he IS gay. But there are few things as difficult to talk to your parents about. There are only so many things it could have been. Being gay is at the top of the list.

      • ndoll87

        Or that he wanted to drop out of school.

      • Esser

        funny how i come in here and see the same thoughts. must tell ya something, from our all walks of life.

      • Nick Nation

        I agree ☝️ I wouldn’t rule anything out when it comes to searching for a loved one

      • Nick Nation

        And i think his parents may have a better chance at finding their son if they try to think out of the box because you can never fully know a person even if it’s your children. Most children don’t wanna disappoint their parents & will go to extreme lengths to keep it that way like hiding their true feelings about themselves

      • Kathryn Stinson

        It could honestly be that’s what he wanted to tell them. But then again I don’t think so cuz his mother has already disclosed that she and bryces relationship is very open and he can tell her anything and doesn’t have to commit suicide for. My idea is that being on those pills he drove somewhere one night hit and run. Someone that might have died and this makes him drink like crazy and do more pills…act not like himself at all. So wants to kill himself rather than tell his parents….something to this nature may have happened to him. Being gay is to easy-to-use. Mother would except him…it is something more serious than that.

        • SammyG

          That’s a new and interesting idea that he had be involved in a hit and run and perhaps killed someone, hence the heavy drinking and drug abuse. Fearing jail and all he decided to end his life to start a new one.

          • Kathryn Stinson

            Ya know something that is so selfish of him to do this to his parents. So that’s why I think that he didnt want to abandon his life like this but could not face what would happen to him if he stayed sammy ya know..

          • SammyG

            Yeah that’s very plausable Kathryn. I don’t think he wanted to face his parents or anyone for that matter. The way he cut ties without explanation with his gf & friends at school.

          • Kathryn Stinson

            Hey Sammy not trying to get off the Bryce disappearance but have you seen the story and disappearance of macin smith he is not a small child either he was 17 when he left his house one morning. His dad woke him for school but mom and dad stayed in bed. When they got up like 30 min after they heard him leave as normal. He never took wallet,bookbag,money anything..never came back home…..GONE??????

          • SammyG

            Yes, i have read up on that case as well. I kind of think suicide also though.

    • Brandi Layne Terrazas

      I am on. vyvanse and have drank not ever an issue…. Divergent drugs maybe but these two there’s really no bad interactions

      • Rhet Oric

        For your biochemistry there may not be any interaction, but it’s different for every single person taking the medication, and it’s different every time they take it. This is true for all medications, and while they are generally predictable, you should never underestimate the power and potential for side effects of any meidcation, prescription or over-the-counter.

        • Terrie Warren

          Exactly!!

      • Terrie Warren

        There are interactions with the two. You may not have had any bad reactions, but it is never a good idea to mix alcohol with prescription medication or take and drink with medications that are not prescribed to you. He didn’t have ADD so it would cause a reaction mixing the two.

      • Eric Llanos

        Not eveyone is the same

      • CatAtonic99

        I’m also on Vyvanse and learned the hard way that it was extremely easy (for me at least) to get black-out drunk. I’ve never been a heavy drinker but on the Vyvanse I couldn’t tell how intoxicated I was. It was frightening. I drove when I normally wouldn’t have, swaying in and out of the lines on the freeway. I knew I was struggling but didn’t know how to pull over because of the state I was in.

        When I was prescribed Adderall and would drink it was a different story because I could tell if I was intoxicated or not and therefore didn’t drink to a black-out state.

        When I researched these affects I found that it’s quite common to drink yourself into blacking out while on Vyvanse. I think they need a stronger, more specific warning regarding mixing it with alcohol.

      • SammyG

        Everyone reacts differently to meds, drinking and or drugs. Plus we don’t know the dosages etc. But there is always a change of a bad reaction to Medication even without mixing other substances even mental state and physical health issues can be variables.

    • Terrie Warren

      I agree with you and both of the things you said crossed my mind to.

  • Goo Jovi

    I agree. I think he may have had a Mental Break. If he is Alive or not, who knows but, I pray for him & the family. Must be SO hard to not know. I WISH they would have listened to his girlfriend or maybe the girlfriend called the Cops or something… But, hindsight is always 20/20

    • Tessa

      The cops would have let him go. They talked to him, searched his car, called his mom for him and said he was acting normal. I wish the parents would have just driven to get him since he was in the same spot for 10+ hours. Clearly he wasn’t right just sitting in his car staring into space.

      • Lahlah Po

        That bothered me too. Something was CLEARLY wrong. If that had been anyone in my family i wouldve been on my way there the FIRST time they found he was still in that same place. It boggled my mind that they didnt come up there and get him.

        • Tessa

          Right? It was only a 3 hour drive and I’m sure the traffic wasn’t bad in the middle of the night. Not blaming them, but geez. No matter what the cop told them. They should know their son. Again, him sitting in a dark area for 10 hours is clearly not normal.

          • CatAtonic99

            And cops seem to become suspicious and concerned over less….

      • Terrie Warren

        Exactly!!

      • Blotus

        The car is the parents property and if that was my son I would have had the cops impound the vehicle. Then the cops would have had to drive Bryce to station to wait for parents. Also what was on his computer and phone he left at accident site. They don’t even mention that. Imho before spending a gazillion tax dollars on divers and bloodhounds the answers most likely lie with his laptop, roommate and girlfriend.

  • Brandi Layne Terrazas

    His parents seem so blind to his issues. I think he did not want to go back to school but didn’t know how to tell them. He obviously didn’t think he could tell them what he had to tell them. My parents were blind to my addiction also for over4years.

    • Terrie Warren

      You are right!!! That’s exactly what I thought they seem so blind to the drinking and the drugs. No mother (I am one) should or could know exactly what their child is doing when they are not with them.

    • TheFirst

      This was exactly my thoughts. I felt a connection to him while watching even. I got into drugs a year before college and I got worse because I couldnt tell my parents I didnt want to go. I eventually got myself to tell them. But I bet they just always assumed he would go and gave him no real choice because they would say how proud they were and how excited they were for him to go to school. He just felt so bad that he couldnt tell them.

  • marciababii

    His parents seem out of touch. The boy was clearly high on pills and just bc he wasn’t acting full on crazy he was obviously on something and probably killed himself.

    • Pamela McLaughlin

      I just watched the rerun on ID. His parents definitely give off a vibe of sugar coating things. If my college-age kids was doing prescription drugs, mushrooms, drinking — I wouldn’t say, as his father did, “normal teen stuff.” No, it’s not. And I KNOW when the cop confronted him the SECOND time, I would have told them to hold him until I got there. By that time, hours had passed and something was wrong..and yet you still just told him to drive home? Are you kidding

      • marciababii

        Yes I was thinking the exact same thing!! They had so many opportunities to bring him home.

      • guesttt

        Yes i would have asked them to take him into custody to assure that he was safe til i could get there. and hauled as s to get to him

        • Philip

          Completely illegal though at 19.

        • Kathryn Nawrocki

          Yeah don’t think you can just ask cops to detain someone for no reason. If he seemed drugged/incoherent I get it but he seemed lucid.

          • SammyG

            If you tell LE that he is a danger to himself and others (other drivers in this case) they will hold the person – not arrest them unless they fail sobriety test- but hold them sometimes in a hosptial to be assessed until the family arrive. The police and doctors won’t let the person leave until they are signed out by the family member if they have been told the person is likely under the influence and or having psychiatric issues. I know that laws and policies are different depending on location but this is common practice many places.

          • Kathryn Nawrocki

            I know this but again this was up to the parents though, not something law enforcement could take it upon themselves to do given they didn’t observe any strange behavior to this effect. Parents should have said this, even made it up, if they felt there was genuine trouble.

          • SammyG

            Yes you’re right.. i totally agree that the parents should have told the police the alarming things that would have enabled LE to take precautionary actions.

      • Terrie Warren

        I would have told them to hold him to and then drove to him. That is not normal.

        • CatAtonic99

          And he’s their only child, right? I’d be extra protective of my only kid.

          I imagine his parents probably look back and have plenty of regrets over their choices. I think they wanted to put their trust in their son, and like many parents are afraid of pushing him further away by being to protective.

          His parents might’ve been naive. I imagine they did the best they knew how to at that moment in time. I’d hate to blame them because I’m sure they already have so much guilt and pain. I do think there was more that could’ve been done all around.

          I’m glad the gf cared enough to call his parents and had enough sense to try to hold his keys, knowing he’d probably be upset with her.

          • TheFirst

            The part that seems the most naive is the “he wasnt that bad into drugs” part. I did hard drugs for years before my parents knew. They wouldve said the same thing. I think when he got his freedom he went nuts doing drugs and drinking freely.

          • CatAtonic99

            I live in an area of Utah that is heavily populated with Mormons/LDS (but what place in Utah isn’t? Lol) and am very familiar with parents who are too naive, embarrassed, or afraid of being judged that they tend to turn their heads and deny anything that goes against their faith.

            Unfortunately, I’ve lost a lot of friends to overdose and addiction partly because their parents minimized the problem or swept it under the rug.

            I agree, writing it off as “typical” or “not that bad” when it was clearly affecting his personality and his decision-making abilities seems quite naive or in denial.

            Sadly, my friends who struggled the most, seemingly jumped right to heroin instead of experimenting with less hard stuff like the rest of us, and were amongst the majority of overdose deaths were the kids from the “best” LDS families. One example of this is a “Moral Leader” in our state who felt it was best to not get her son help for his heroin addiction at a proper treatment center even after several of his closest friends had already died from overdose. Instead she felt it was best to deal with it “in the home” (aka she was too embarrassed for anyone to find out and possibly judge her). Her son died from an overdose. Surprise! I had hung out with him before but was closer friends with his other friends who passed. The naivety is infuriating. These parents honestly remind me of the Mormon/LDS parents around here who turn their head and are more dedicated to protecting their reputation than having a clue about what is going on with their kid(s).

          • Cali Angelie

            Exactly. His parents were So naive that I think he was probably drinking and getting high that whole summer while living at their house (before he even went off to college). It’s just that his parents didn’t notice it. No way did he get totally addicted and strung out the way he did in just 2 weeks.Seriously, I hate to blame the parents but they were the most lacking in street smarts and common sense I think I’ve ever seen. And the fact that he sat there for over 10 hrs acting totally out of character and they didn’t come get him blew my mind. Unfortunately, I think he committed suicide. His actions were textbook and I think the waiting around was him getting his courage up to go thru with it. Sad story.

          • CatAtonic99

            Seems there were a lot of signs overlooked, especially in hindsight, in regard to drugs, alcohol, behavior, and emotional issues.

          • Cali Angelie

            Exactly. I’m really not trying to blame the parents (I’m sure they beat themselves up enough over all this) but they just seemed like really sheltered people who wanted to think of their son a certain way instead of dealing in reality.

        • Eden Lachlan

          Yes but remember – the kid was 19 years old, a legal adult, and the police have absolutely no power to hold someone against their will unless they have committed some sort of crime. You can’t just take someone’s liberty away because you think something might be “off”. There would have to be some kind of objective, very real threat to either his own life, or the lives of others – none of which the police were able to substantiate after speaking with him, or searching his car. Obviously the police already knew this, which is why they didn’t take any further action. My guess is the only thing the parents could have done would have been to tell the police the car he was driving (which I think belonged to the parents?) was stolen, and to have them charge for car theft – and then they could have dropped the charges later once they had reached him.

        • Philip

          At 19, the police can’t hold someone just on their parents request. So many comments are not understanding that.

          • SammyG

            That’s correct unless drugs, alcohol or serious mental health issue is in the mix. They can hold them at a hospital to be evaluated if the circumstances involve the safety of person or others. It’s up to the discretion of LE.

      • ANTHONY SAUTER

        I agree but my question is could the police have actually held him if it was against his will? Just wondering.

        • CatAtonic99

          Wonder if they could’ve explained how long he had been there to the cop and asked for a 5150 hold (possible danger to self or others). If they could, then at least he could get evaluated.

          • Esser

            you can be sued if proven it was a false report. but i do feel the desperation aspect of the situation. cant use that hold unless its true, imagine some ex doing that to you. or someone who just feels like it. cant just flagrantly use that.

        • Esser

          no, unless the parents did a mental health claim, like a suicide/homicide threat. which opens a whole can of worms, never want to do that unless its true. the parents shouldve gone themselves but had the road side assistant make sure he was still at location periodically. like without spooking him!! especially after all them hours. and if my son told me to f off at least i could walk away saying i did my part, 3hrs isnt that long of a drive.

    • Terrie Warren

      That’s what I think happened to.

  • Dale Seitter

    I really hope for the best outcome here for this young man. Watched this episode a couple of times and there seems to be something about the family that just doesn’t sit right with me. If they were so close, why did they just sit around and wait for him when he was clearly not making rational decisions for an entire day or more. Also, the Dad seems to be a little disconnected in most of this story, could be editing but again if they are so close… I am always a little skeptical of those who say their child tells them everything, not likely. I have had discussions on all sorts of topics with my kids and their problems or dilemmas but still get surprised from time to time.

  • nvrbl

    This is the age that schizophrenia comes on. How very sad for him and his family. It is not fair to second guess the family.

    • Esser

      one of my thoughts.

    • Ginas

      You are SO right! They probably never thought of that or his being gay. Turned a blind eye and now blinded by the light.

      • Sheila Ross

        That’s exactly what I think. He was gay and terrified to tell his parents. If so he may have decided to just walk away and reinvent his life geared toward the real him.
        I’d be curious to know if his family was religious or had shown disapproval of homosexuality.

  • guesttt

    What i cannot fathom is how they never bothered to get in the car and take a 3 hour drive to pick up their obviously troubled son. I don’t know a parent myself who wouldve left it up to the child past the 1st phone call indicating something was up. I think their son did something very bad that was going to get him in serious trouble, he found out bad news that he didn’t want to face, or maybe he had a mental break. I would air towards the side of he did something very bad that he couldn’t face only because of the sudden extreme substance abuse and the giving away of belongings and cutting ties. Did he get involved with bad people? I would guess his computer and phone holds all the answers though. If there is something so bad that he would suddenly try to kill himself by running off the road you cannot tell me there are no clues on his computer and cell phone no kid his age communicates in any other fashion but via cell phone or computer. I wonder if they went into all of his social media accounts, email, cell phone etc checking messages. Did they go through his phone records to see whom he had been contacting someone knows either all or a piece of the story that holds the answers. Unless it was a sudden illness then someone knows what he did or happened to him to cause him to do this.

    • zuzuspetals

      I agree. He was acting so strange. His parents behavior is bewildering to me.

      • Terrie Warren

        Very much so. They are just blinded by “my child would have never done that”! Open your eyes people when your child moves away to go to college they become who they really are as young adults. They try this and that, but whatever was going on with this young man was something that he felt was so horrible that he thought no one would understand, and it is so sad!😞

        • zuzuspetals

          This Disappeared show fascinates me. What’s so strange about Bryce is he seemed to go off the rails in 2 weeks after spending all summer with his parents. I just don’t get why no one did anything when they found him sitting in his car in the same place for hours and hours. That is not normal behavior.

          • Terrie Warren

            You are so right!! It’s incredible how no one did anything. The parents should have asked the police to hold him until they got there?? It’s unbelievable! I honestly think the ADD meds with the alcohol put him into a psychotic episode or whatever he wanted to talk to his parents about was so bad to him that he wanted to take his own life or just walk away.

          • CatAtonic99

            I suffer with anxiety and depression and I tend to do similar things as far as driving hours up a dark canyon or sitting in my car for hours just thinking. Even if it’s just in the driveway…. It’s like a place to go to get away from everything and is easily accessible. It feels “safe” for some odd reason.

            The Vyvanse could make his thoughts race and cause greater anxiety and possibly even paranoia.
            (I’m also on Vyvanse)

          • SammyG

            I also have similar things in common with you and I totally agree with you.

          • CatAtonic99

            Unfortunate but nice to hear that you can relate

          • Pepper d

            That’s what I would have done. I have a son and would have raced to get him.Its a real tragedy.

          • Eden Lachlan

            The police had no power to hold him against his will – he was a legal adult. Once they determined that he was not under the influence, they were obliged to let him go.

        • Esser

          exactly ikr!!

    • Terrie Warren

      Yes I don’t understand any of that in this day in time it would be the first thing you would do??? I just don’t get it.

    • zuzuspetals

      I can’t understand this either. He was obviously acting odd no matter how normal he might have sounded. I would have gotten in the car and driven there to get him. There were so many opportunities to detain him. Very sad and tragic because his disappearance could have been prevented in my opinion.

    • A. Smith

      I am sure law enforcement examined all the avenues mentioned above. I am also sure they found nothing intriguing, or this wouldn’t be such a puzzler.

      • TheFirst

        He could have easily dont something very bad while out by himself one night and no one ever connected it. There would be no evidence on electronics. Maybe he hit someone while driving drunk. Killed someone in a drunken rage on a dark road. The other option is that his parents always assumed he would go to college and pressured him into it. He was so afraid to disappoint them and tell them he didnt want to do college that he started drinking and doing drugs and the vyvanse made it way worse, and he disappeared.

      • Esser

        i think the cops believe he had the right to do what he did, if he wanted to sit in the car all day so be it. i think the cops also think he dont wat to be bothered with. getting rid of the car was part of him saying i dont want to be hounded leave me the f alone!! people do have the right to walk off.

      • SammyG

        I’m not sure, the officers own personal decision making in assessing the situation might have been what you or i would do. It’s the officers discretion and maybe he didn’t realize or think through different ways of handling said situation. Not saying he did anything bad on purpose but we can’t possibly know his level of experience with this unique case. A different officer might have done something different.

    • Tam Rochelle

      I agree. I asked this on their fb page

    • SammyG

      I agree about them not making the 3 hour drive. I absolutely do not understand why the parents and the officer didn’t take this more seriously. In those 10 hours they had plenty of opportunity to drive the 3 hours to him.

  • Newellz

    I think this young man had a mental break and ran away. He gave away meaningful possessions to his friends and left all of his personal belongings including his wallet, laptop, and cell phone at the site of his wrecked car. He purposefully left nothing for investigators to go by/no evidence because he does not want to be found.

    • zuzuspetals

      That is suicidal behavior.

      • FOL

        Or a psychotic breakthrough. Schizophrenia episodes generally start between aged 18-28.

  • sayaha

    I kinda feel that he hitched a ride after the accident, drove away with someone and killed himself somewhere else. Or just ran away to star a new life. I think he was acting too… consistently? He was too… credible when talking to parents and cops to be drugged or drunk or both. So it makes me feel that he could plan the whole “runaway” thing. He started acting weird out of nowhere. Started abusing strong liquor. He might have faked taking prescription drugs and mixing it with alcohol. Then he started giving away his stuff. Broke up with the girlfriend. Told mom not to book a flight so he would have time to complete what he planned. Jumped into the car and drove away. On the way where he could’ve choose a) start a new life b) take the road to his home and stay with his family and friends. That’s why he stayed in that place for so long. He was making a choice. Then this guy from the garage pushed him and he hit the road to his family. When the guy diasappeared he turned his car, called parents that he needs to sleep to have some time to complete what he planned again. He wanted to fake the suicide so he drove of the cliff but the car didn’t fall to the water. He crawled off the car and he hitched a ride and drove away somewhere (to kill himself somewhere else or to start a new life).

  • Kevin Schafer

    I’m curious to know what reason he gave his girlfriend on wanting to suddenly break-up. I’m sure she would have demanded a reason from him.

  • Persephoneo P.

    I don’t understand why his parents didn’t make the drive to the rest stop area. They had so many opportunities, they knew he wasn’t in a good frame of mind. I don’t want to victim blame but the parents’ decisions and lack of action is very confusing to me.

  • Tony Westpy

    I think he had a bit of a psychotic break, but everything else that led up to it, sadly, leads to 1 conclusion in my mind. I think he was raped, and the trauma broke him down over several weeks until he committed suicide.. Watch the episode and you’l notice how sudden the onset was, and how he apparently didn’t just break up with his girlfriend, but told her she’d be better off without him. When you also consider how much crap men are given when they come forward with having been raped, that adds an additional level of anxiety. He probably felt like, in addition to the usual things that rape trauma brings, he also might have felt like his manhood was taken away. All of that boils up inside, and grows into a monster.

    • Tiff

      Or what if HE raped someone? I thought about that. When something traumatic happens to a person they “go off the rails so to speak.

      • TheFirst

        The victim would most likely have eventually said something after the disappearance though.

        • SammyG

          Unless it was a stranger who wouldn’t have been able to make the connection.

    • CatAtonic99

      Interesting thought. Seems extreme at first glance, but I know a male who was raped by his friend’s father. The father had gotten him drunk (he was a teenager) and I guess used his inebriated state to overtake him. This kid had problems with drugs, alcohol, anything he could get his hands on. He was no doubt depressed and this changed many aspects of his self-worth and personality. This kid didn’t care if he died from drugs. He just wanted it all to go away. It’s terrible.

    • Cali Angelie

      That’s definitely a possible theory, that or he was secretly gay or maybe he hurt someone while drunk/high like a hit and run or something and felt guilty.But I don’t believe that he just spiraled down in 2 weeks. That’s his parent’s version of events.I’d bet he was going downhill way before that (but his naive parents had no idea) and it just got worse when he went to college, 2 weeks later he couldn’t deal anymore and that’s why he ended up taking his own life (I don’t believe he just up and ran away).

  • Eric Llanos

    I have a feeling that he lost alot of memory due to the drug he used . He wasnt even capable to drive back home. And he was afraid to tell his parents he wasnt the same. And after the crash everything just went worst for his mental health . I believe someone has him

    • TheFirst

      Ive done lots of vyvanse back when i did drugs and memory loss is like the opposite effect it has.

  • ziezo

    Hello i am from the netherlands and ,After watching this episode , I was so intrigued by the story, which to me were a lot of questions unanswered ,and what I read in general here, we ask ourselves the same questions , why the parents have not got in the car , etc. etc
    there are in this story about bryan very many contradictions, and wonder whether there is proper research is done to all involved ,
    nothing found on his phone , computer etc. Are you kidding me
    This is also a episode in which the girlfriend and his roommate , are not in this episode, wonder why ? And realy all before this odd behavior ,all was picture perfect,
    I go to read absolutely more about this case because it wont let me go.

    • CatAtonic99

      I also wondered why they weren’t involved in the episode, especially the girlfriend. She seemed so concerned about his well-being. I’m sure this is tearing her up.

      • Cali Angelie

        I wondered that too. I’m pretty sure his GF and his good friends knew Way more about his personal life than his parents and they’d probably be able to paint a clearer picture. I almost wonder if the parents didn’t want the GF to come on the show cuz she might expose just how bad he had gotten (drugs,alcohol,mental illness etc) and the parents didn’t want to air all that out as they’re totally in denial and seemed to want to minimize his troubles. IDK that’s just the feeling I got off the parents.

        • CatAtonic99

          I wish they’d do an update

          • Cali Angelie

            Totally! This story really got to me just picturing this poor guy sitting in his car for hours all alone,probably depressed AF and freaking out inside. I really believe he was suicidal and when him crashing his car down by the lake didn’t work I think he walked (or hitched a ride) somewhere else and killed himself but they just haven’t found him yet. I hope I’m wrong but I seriously doubt he’s still alive :/

    • CatAtonic99

      Also, I’m not sure if you’ve heard about Websleuths, but they have pretty much every missing person as well as crime case you can think of discussed on their site. I imagine this one would be on their site.

  • Esser

    either schizophrenia, he was gay, or couldnt handle being an addict. some parents look like they are laid back, but i would almost venture they really werent.

  • Dimitris Kopteridis

    drugs? Dealer threat over money?

    own money to someone?

    Saw something in the university? Drug dealing etc.

    Before leaving university maybe
    transient global amnesia and after the car crash total amnesia by hit?

    Was he kidnapped by a random kidnapper (thinks happen) and he is prisoned somewhere without knowing anything about himself?

  • Jacy Ford

    Wow! How sad his story! Maybe medications’ side affects could be the cause of his disappearance.Please, let me know any updates on that case.

  • Nick Nation

    It seems like he’s hiding & struggling with secrets about himself, like being gay. He’s sure that’ll greatly disappoint his parents & girlfriend so he chose to run away from all of them, hates himself for having such an unexceptional secret about himself all while contemplating telling his parents or commit suicide. Obviously he chose suicide but when that didn’t work he decided to change his identity hitchhike to unknown city, as a hobo or homeless man or to a city well researched in advance where he knows most gay’s go are accepted no matter who they are or where there’re from. Im just saying his parents may wanna try looking for him in the cities where gay men tend to congregate 👀

  • Ginas

    Clear sign that he was suicidal when he gave his possessions away. So sad, we have an only child and I gave up my career to be a stay at home mom. Our children still do things that make you shake your head and go: “Not my child!”. I am glad that we got through those young adult years. We never had to deal with drugs, alcohol, or cigarettes, yet still made me crazy at times. I can’t understand the parents being so naïve. If it were my child, I would have had the police hold him. gotten in my car and gone and gotten him. My motto:” It will become apparent when YOU become a parent”, when your child hates you for interfering in there lives. Sweeping things under the rug only trips everyone up.

    • Eden Lachlan

      Yes but he was 19 years old, the police had no legal authority to hold him. Even if the parents had asked them to, the police would have been obliged to decline. An 18 year old is legally “adult” and parental rights terminate at that age, so there would have been no possibility of “holding” him. Which is, of course, why the police did not do it. Especially after speaking with him, searching his car and finding nothing overtly suspicious.

      • Blotus

        Right but the car is the parents’ property so they could have had the cops impound the vehicle and drove Bryce to the police station. In my opinion the parents left it to everyone else to tell them their kid was okay. Even the girlfriend wouldn’t give car keys to Bryce and she was there in person and said to mom he’s not okay to drive. But no, mom said he’s okay. The parents are either totally clueless or thought they could ‘manage’ the situation remotely. Sad and definitely preventable.

        • Eden Lachlan

          Yeah but that logic ignores some massive situational obstacles. First and foremost, the parents are hearing about everything second hand. Mostly being told that he seems fine, and the parents were also in contact with him throughout the “journey” home. They didn’t find out much about the potential suicide-ness until after the fact. Not that it would have mattered. In the absence of a court order, or behavior which determines the potential for harm to be significant and imminent (which is a standard so high it usually involves flat out statements on behalf of the individual that they are intending to harm themselves (or someone else). If the boy appeared fine on being pulled over, and there was no illegal paraphernalia found in the car (had they even had probable cause to search it) – they would not have been able to do anything. Remember, a cop can’t hold anyone without an arrest warrant – and a cop cannot hold a psychiatric patient PERIOD. All they can do is drive the patient to the ER for an “evaluation”, and only two doctors in agreement that this harm was both significant and imminent, could he potentially TEMPORARILY be sectioned. In this case, after perusing it several times, its clear to see that he doesn’t even come CLOSE to meeting the legal standard required to without personal liberty (the value considered the most important in all of society, and the one the most protected and difficult to remove). The parents also don’t want to push him over the edge. Had they started storming towards wherever they were, he could easily have freaked out and run. The police wouldn’t be allowed to hold him – and the “car theft” thing wouldn’t have worked at all since it was clear contextually and legally that he had been GIVEN PERMISSION to use the car. If the parents reported the car missing/stolen, then a bulletin would have gone out, and at the time the car was located, the son would have been arrested. Permanent criminal record. Very few parents would do something so damaging to their children. Especially since it would accomplish nothing. Even if they did go and pick him up, and then drive him home, they would have no way whatever to KEEP him at home. He could have immediately left. And their relationship would have been destroyed. He would probably never share anything with his parents ever again. I can’t see who that would benefit. Even the police did not think there was cause for alarm. He was not detained, held, tested, brought in for any kind of questioning etc. Which they couldn’t have done without a lawyer anyway . But even if they had, what would THAT have achieved except create a barrier between not only him and his parents, but him and the police. He likely would not have contacted the parents again. I think they thought the best thing to do was to try to guide him, get him home, value his trust etc, and plan long term. Those kinds of actions – (having him arrested, having him charged with theft) are life/relationship changing events. Once someone is an adult, their parents are entitled to no more access than any other third party adult with regards to their child’e personal life. Also keep in mind, in going down a “health” route – he is entitled to 100% confidentiality. Even if he had been located, held, brought into the hospital etc – the police would have NO obligation to even inform the parents that the son had been found. They aren’t entitled to any of that information. I’d say they were worried he would cut them out completely and just sort of did the best that they could. I find it hard to place any blame on them. The police have an amazing history of “under-reacting” in serious situations. They have a reputation for responding to crisis calls way too late, or inadequately, and often with disastrous results. This includes times of MAJOR crisis – aka abduction of a very young minor – not things such as a sane, independent, seemingly perfectly normal young adults who have nor arrived home from university quite as soon as his parents hoped. Especially since he was maintaining contact with the parents the entire time. Their hands were very much tied. I feel for them. There may even be more we are not publicly aware of.

  • Diane

    Wonder if there is any history of a head trauma? Like maybe hit his head over the previous summer? Left me tell you, it can completely mess up your life. I had what I thought was a fairly minor bump to the head (husband and I ran into each other) with no loss of consciousness (that I recall) but I have NO memory of the following 2 days whee I evidently went to work, lived my regular life until the third day when people at work noticed that I was acting “off”. After a trip to ER, I found out I had a concussion. Was off work for weeks because I couldn’t remember where I was going and suffered horrible headaches. It changed my personality too. It’s really a weird experience. Just wondering if Bryce may have experienced something similar.

    • SammyG

      Yeah, I’ve had a few concussion myself and they after effects are really serious.

  • pendragon05

    Sounds like he fell in with the wrong crowd at college. What a sad ending!

  • nc

    I have had family members with schizophrenia and bipolar disorder and
    each one had this issue in their early twenties, the fight of flight.
    Suicidal because they dont know how to live with it… In our case the
    family had to run to get them. But same behaviour with random phone
    calls, detached emotions and the lose of time/reality I am so sorry for
    this family and hope Bryce returns or they find him alive someday
    soon…

  • Kerri Gerrard

    He sat in his car for many hours contemplating suicide in my opinion. Maybe he wanted to tell his parents he was feeling that he wanted to end his life and decided to do it when he rolled his car. When he realized it didn’t work he took off. I do not believe he is alive. I hope he is but I don’t see him living some secret life somewhere. The weeks before this his friends said he exhibited odd behavior and was doing pills and alcohol. He gave away personal possessions and broke it off with the girlfriend. He sat in the car for HOURS deciding on whether to go home or go through with the suicide. I believe he chose suicide.

  • Ennui

    Maybe a predator that preys on young men? Or mental/substance abuse issues, most likely.

  • John Wilson

    We just see he’s story on the TVs,we don’t know anything about him but,I,am Sorry to say but I think he is died and he was sexually assaulted by a family member when he was a little boy that why he didn’t want to tell he’s Mother

    • SammyG

      That’s a possibility…

  • ARTS2000

    its such a sad story bc so many ppl stopped to help him that night and there he sat hours later. it was clear he was distressed. I feel bad for the parents .. they must be thinking we should have drove there and got him or whatever..